MANO PO SUMMER 2017
Quarterly Journal for Fil-Am Seniors & Families
Theme: Preparing and Enjoying the Golden Years
Health, Financial, Legal & Family Matters
TIME TO ENJOY THE GOLDEN YEARS
…aging is not loneliness and giving up
.it is a continuing life of fun, diversity and spin.
..one must seek it....PCCSA is here for you.
A Heartfelt Profession of a Mission
I have been blessed with an excellent, creative and exciting diplomatic career as Assistant to the Press Minister of the Pakistan Mission to the United Nations for 43 years. Now, the best life path for me is giving back and making a difference in the lives of seniors and elderly persons by "Preparing and Enjoying the Golden Years ". This advocacy has, and still is, giving me deeper meaning in my life, far beyond the personal and professional satisfactions I have already experienced and achieved. Indeed, the best and most satisfying life is serving those who are truly in need.
My ultimate dream, as I lay the foundation of the Philippine Community Center Services for the Aging, is for it to become an "enduring" institution to serve one of the most forgotten sectors of the Filipino American community and the world at large.
Ma. Consuelo Almonte
(A Program of The Nursing Office Services for Aging Immigrants)
Myrna D. Santos
Pauline, Marivir, Cristina
The Nursing Office.Com/PCCSA
Publisher: Four Dragon Global Network, Inc./ PCCSA/TOPS
To promote, celebrate and salute the elderly, and provide products and services to influence a change in culture to prepare and enjoy the golden years through a carefully designed program by and for seniors.
Aging should not be a challenge.
We envision Aging Seniors or Elderly Immigrants, who are educated and trained advocates, to access culturally sensitive & competent health-care services or therapies; fair housing practices; technological literacy; and financial independence.
We are seeing immensely Creative, Innovative, and Vibrant Seniors and Elderly Persons, utilizing their experience and hard-earned skills to mentor young people and activate intergenerational dialogues which inspire and motivate the next generation to create their own legacies.
We see these engaged Seniors and Elderly persons building strength for themselves, their families and communities, through Art, Dance, Theater, Literature, and many other expressive cultural forms.
We see active Seniors reach out to invisible aging or Elderly Immigrants seriously challenged by chronic illness, loneliness, isolation, or separation from close family, and by lack of information on access to government benefits. and engage them in self-empowering health & wellness practices.
We support Active Seniors who are opening their own private homes (or houses) to provide Living Spaces for fixed income Seniors, or Interactive Spaces for dialogues where Elderly Immigrants and Younger Immigrants interact, recall, and document their family and social histories living in Queens and other boroughs of New York City.
We encourage Seniors to expand their range of choices & strengthen support networks that help them navigate resources to address their health, housing, psycho-social, financial, or legal/immigration needs and issues.
We all look forward to our productive, beautiful and healthy Golden Years!
Program Director/ Editor in Chief
Table of Contents
- Greetings by PPCSA Founder Consuelo Almonte
- The Mission: Saving our Seniors (Lutgarda Resurreccion)The Endangered Species
- Mano Po: A Culture based on Love and Respect for the Elderly
- Featured Story: General Antonio Taguba
- Once Upon a Time & Ninety Years Later (Myrna D. Santos)
- Preparing & Enjoying the Golden Years (Retire Stress Free..Glenn Castillo)
- Third Insight (Pauline Santos)
- How to Celebrate your 100Th Birthday
- The Care Givers
- Medicare & You
“Good Night, Sweet”
You never said you were leaving me,
You said you will be always be there for me
You never said good bye
You were gone before I knew it
God only knows why.
In life I loved you dearly
In death I love you still
In my heart you hold a place
That only you can fill.
It broke my heart to lose you
But you did not go alone
A part of me went with you
The day God took you home.
Wait for me to go home
For soon I will join you when
God in His Infinite goodness
Will welcome me home.
Thank you darling for the wonderful years you gave me,
The thought of you, the legacy you left behind,
I look forward that remembrance of sweet memories,
That would sustain me as I imagine a life of emptiness, fear and loneliness…
Mark you have been my strength!
Ma. Consuelo Almonte
The THIRD INSIGHT
We used to have a McDonald's downstairs from my apartment. It was a hangout for our model senior citizens community in Rego Park, Queens, New York. I say "model" because they exemplify what attitude to have when you start to age, whether you are Fil-Am or not. After lunch, they start to gather, about ten of them or more sometimes, and they bring their cookies. The store gives them senior discount for coffee, so that's why the McDonald's appeal. They laugh and gossip, tell stories and make friends. They would say hi to me because they notice I'm there every day as well, reading and writing. I think this is a sign that they want to make friends with younger people.
I live with my Mom who is now almost 89 years old. Her main complaint about ageing is that young people don't want to be with old people. They feel rejected. This rejection can sometimes cause depression, although they don't talk about how it really makes them feel. So I smile at them at McDonald's and even have a chat sometimes with the very extroverted ones. I can see the joy in their eyes, and it pleases me.
Rejection of old people is prevalent in western society. For Fil-Ams, you are lucky if you get the attention you deserve from your grandchildren. Though perhaps we are a tad luckier as Fil-Ams, because we are used to the all-inclusive extended family system. Everyone cares for one another beyond the nuclear family kuno, so that parents encourage the young ones to care for the elderly. The children are encouraged to take care of a sick elderly. When my lola Sayong had a fall in my aunt's house in Quezon City, my aunt requested my cousin Nilda (her apo or granddaughter) to take care of her for a week. It was my aunt's intention not to just to get help, but to show her apo that she had an obligation as an apo to take care of a sick lola (grandmother).
Nilda, raised as a bourgeoisie, had a negative response. She felt that she was being unfairly targeted as a young niece. "Why can't she ask one of her daughters?" she confided in me. She had a point. So she told her aunt that her Dad did not allow her because she had a full load at the university. So she did not really see it as an opportunity to be of service to an old person. Perhaps we have to look at the family history and family relationship to understand Nilda's feelings.
So I encourage Fil-Am parents to continue the tradition of young ones taking care of the ageing; to honor what their own parents taught them when they were young. Because it is indeed a very well-kept secret among the ageing population that they don't want to feel rejected by the young people.